'does your mother know?'

There is always a moment in a relationship when it is time to present your partner to your parents. In my case, it is not that easy. Although I told them about me being gay more than seven years ago they still don't accept that. They are perfectly aware of that but they will simply never acknowledge that. In fact I thought that after all those years they would be ready to do that. I guess I was more than wrong.

On Friday, I sent them an email as a reply concerning taking a bus I should take from here to my country right before Christmas. I wrote:

Hi,
Yes there is a bus. If I take it on 23 Dec I will arrive the day after in the afternoon.
And there is something else I would like you to know. I want to come home with a friend. Actually he is my boyfriend. He is from North America, I met him in North Africa and now he works in another country in Asia. I will go there to see him in 3 weeks. No one has to know the truth except for you. I know that this might come as a big surprise. He is really cool and I would like him to spend the Christmas with us.
Think of that and let me know.

Right after, sending that email I started having doubts. "Was it right to send it? It has been only 4 months that we are together and maybe it is a too big step to take right now. I would be a bit embarrassed / ashamed in front of my parents if James and I broke up." I had to immediately call him. I felt insecure. I had known all the feelings he had for me but I guess I wanted to hear them again. He was very supportive and made me sure that whatever would happen he would always be there for me. He said he treated us very seriously and that it was the best relationship he had ever had. It calmed me. I realized that I should have no fears regarding the email I had just sent. It is my best relationship ever as well. The amount of honesty, understanding and compromises makes it so much more healthy than anything I was ever involved in before. The alignment of our visions of our lives and of a relationship just perfectly enables it to work out. We are pretty alike shaped by the similar kind of experience we went through last year. And we also want this relationship to work out. I should not be afraid. Of course there are always situations that can happen out of the blue and destroy everything. But for the moment at least there is nothing that I could expect to threaten our relationship.

Yesterday, my mother replied. Under any circumstance does she want to see him at my home. I should have expected that. I was not surprised actually. Neither sad nor depressed. A bit disappointed though. But it does not influence my relationship at all. It will go on no matter what people think. After all, it is me who is in a relationship with James. It is me who feels great with him. It is me who is happy. And people around should be happy for me if they truly want my happiness.